Most sex tips often include sex positions that look impossible or using foods and other household items that will at the very least be very awkward and cringe-worthy. At the worst, these tips could cause injury or infection. Often these tips just make a funny read and aren’t particularly practical. That’s why we’re here to offer you some practical advice on how to spice it up in the bedroom. These tips don’t require a master class in yoga and neither do they involve food or any other strange kitchen items.
1. Don’t Just Stick To The Bed
The bed can get boring after a point, so make sure to switch it up. There’s plenty of surfaces that you haven’t tried out. The kitchen countertop, the sofa(keep your clothes on to make sure you don’t ruin any upholstery), or even the floor. Anywhere outside of your regular routine can feel exciting.
2. Get Out Of The House
Sometimes, just a change of setting can be arousing enough. This is why sex on vacation can feel way more exotic and exciting. Don’t worry, you don’t have to break the bank for tickets to the Maldives if you want to spice up your sex life. Just book a hotel room in town for an evening. Or sleep in the guestroom or the living room for a change. If you’ve lived together for a while, this little change can do wonders.
3. Play Around Outdoors
Public sex is illegal but there are plenty of ways to still legally get that risky feeling of being outdoors. Perhaps you could open your bedroom windows and leave on some thin curtains. If you have a backyard with high enough fences, make use of it as it starts to get dark.
This one isn’t just for the youngsters. Try sending suggestive texts to each other throughout the workday or whenever you’re apart. By keeping arousal active, it will be much easier to get things going when you finally do get to see each other. You’ll be surprised at the enthusiasm with which you both greet each other.
5. Play With Temperatures
Ice cubes are often a great way to provide stimulation. Since your body temperature rises a little when aroused, a shock to the senses can be exhilarating.1 Try sensually rubbing the ice cubes over your partner’s hip bones and thighs. There may be some giggling but don’t be afraid to laugh a little. After all, sex is supposed to be fun.
6. Don’t Be Afraid Of Lube
Studies show that women who had sex with a water or silicone-based lube reported greater satisfaction and arousal.2 It just goes to show that lube just feels better. Not to mention it can help overcome many sexual barriers. There’s a lot of reasons why you should definitely include lube during your sessions.
7. Keep Going After The Main Event
Afterplay is often ignored but it can be a valuable tip. After all, you’re still aroused and stimulation can feel a lot more intense. It’s also a good time to try that thing you’ve wanted to do for a while but were too shy to ask. Since you’ve already gotten through one round, it’ll be easier to say yes to experimentation without inhibitions. Even if it doesn’t work, nobody is disappointed.
8. Relive The Magic
If the two of you have been together for a while, you would have definitely had some memorable sex over the years. Think about what made that particular night the hottest. In a tamer version of role play, perhaps you both could replay that particular session and try to recreate it.
Whether you’re looking to reignite that spark or just hoping to take your sex life to the next level, these simple, practical tips can help you experiment and find ways to make that happen.
|↑1||Kukkonen, Tuuli M., Yitzchak M. Binik, Rhonda Amsel, and Serge Carrier. “PHYSIOLOGY: Thermography as a Physiological Measure of Sexual Arousal in Both Men and Women.” The journal of sexual medicine 4, no. 1 (2007): 93-105.|
|↑2||Herbenick, Debra, Michael Reece, Devon Hensel, Stephanie Sanders, Kristen Jozkowski, and J. Dennis Fortenberry. “Association of lubricant use with women’s sexual pleasure, sexual satisfaction, and genital symptoms: A prospective daily diary study.” The journal of sexual medicine 8, no. 1 (2011): 202-212.|