Years of research into human behavior and personalities have thrown up many fascinating facts. There might be certain aspects of your behavior that you might not have paid attention to which actually say a lot about your personality. These bits of psychological trivia will leave you intrigued and perhaps with a great insight into yourself.
1. Can Women Keep A Secret?
Have you ever felt uneasy telling your female friends a secret because you’re afraid it won’t remain a secret for very long? Your fears might actually be well-founded. One study found that the average time a woman could keep a secret was for 47 hours and 15 minutes. They are also most likely to spill the secret to people closest to them, their partner, best friend or mother. On top of this, most secrets are let out with a little help from alcohol. Most respondents admitted they were more likely to reveal someone’s secret when they were down a few glasses of wine.
2. Does Being Bilingual Affect Our Personality?
Studies have shown that when you shift from one language to another, you’re also shifting personalities. People who are bilingual unconsciously adopt the mannerisms and norms of the culture whose language they’re using. Because language is such an intrinsic part of each culture, switching languages triggers the characteristics of that culture. Changing languages can also change a person’s perception of self and of societal values.
3. The Friendzone Is A Myth
A survey found that couples who were best friends before they were married had a 70% less chance for divorce and were a lot more likely to remain in love throughout their lives. This is possibly because when two people are best friends, they know everything about each other and are fully aware of what they’re getting into. They also communicate a lot better and have a greater sense of humor which tides them over most problems.
4. Humans Were Not Meant To Be Solitary Creatures
While there’s nothing wrong with being introverted, if you find yourself alone for most of your time, it might pose a problem. Loneliness might not seem as bad a condition as obesity, alcoholism and cigarette smoking, but it’s actually just as deadly. Researchers found that people who reported feeling lonely for long stretches of time had a higher risk of premature death. Migration for work among young adults has led to a rise in this problem. Young people who move to a new place for work are cut off from their family and friends and are very likely to live alone. A keen interest in developing strong emotional bonds is essential for a healthy and long life.
5. Having Only A Few Friends Isn’t A Bad Thing
Intelligent people appear to have fewer friends than most, but develop deep connections with them. People with higher IQs are more concerned with long term success than with short term socializing. They would rather use their time working towards realizing their ambitions than pointlessly meeting new people. They also don’t require a lot of friends because they’re better able to handle their problems on their own and don’t need to depend on others.
6. The Age You Started Being Friends Matters A Lot
Chances are you’re closer with your best friend from college than you are with your best friend from kindergarten. Research has shown that the friends you make between the ages of 16 to 28 are much more likely to last you a lifetime. This could be because around this age, your personality has almost been fully developed. You’re more likely to make friends with similar interests and compatible personalities. You tend to grow apart from friends you make at a younger age because you’re personalities don’t match each other when you grow older. Friends you make at an older age already have lives of their own so you’re less likely to bond deeply with them.
7. Your Agony Aunt Is Probably More Troubled Than You Are
The more problems a person has, the better they are at giving good advice. Experience is an invaluable lesson. People who have been through hard times, are better equipped to be empathetic. They have learnt from their mistakes and are ready to pass on this wisdom to someone in need. Their advice is often practical and their readiness to listen encourages people to confide in them.
8. Your Memories Are More Valuable Than Possessions
Hoarding all your money or spending it only on materialistic possessions won’t make you happy. Studies have found that people who spend their money on new experiences are consistently rated higher on a happiness scale than those who don’t. Amazing memories give people more satisfaction than expensive objects or a big bank balance. So the next time you’re thinking of splurging on new shoes, use that money to travel instead.
9. A Classic Case Of Quality Over Quantity
Contrary to popular (largely male) belief, men aren’t any funnier than women. The reason they are often perceived this way is because they tend to make more jokes and aren’t as conscious of how good they actually are. Another reason why men are often thought of as the funnier sex is because of social constructs. Men are expected to make women laugh and women desire men who can make them laugh. There is much less emphasis on humor when it comes to women, so they end up being perceived as less funny.
10. Music Is A Powerful Influencer
Music can shape your perception of the world, and control your emotions. Do you often visualize yourself as a tragic hero when you listen to a sad song or fearless when you listen to an upbeat one? Music can temporarily alter our moods and affect the way we see things around us. In one study, participants were shown different faces and asked to make a judgement on the emotional state of that person. It was found that they nearly always attributed the emotion of the song they were listening, to that person.