A break up or dissolution of love is one of the most stressful events you can go through in your life. In fact, heart break can sometimes literally put pressure on your heart, and there have been cases where people needed medical help because of the pain inside their chest (usually mistaken for a heart attack). It can be a devastating event, and can cause a person to slip into major depression at times. The pain is almost palpable, and it feels like your heart is literally being ripped to shreds inside. One of the most painful things about a breakup is letting go of possibilities and plans, such as thinking you will spend the rest of your life with this partner. Moreover, we spend a lot of time making connections and working together with our partner to become better people, and losing them is like losing a major support system. Getting over a breakup is a hard thing to do, especially when you’ve just had your heart broken. At this point, it is all about baby steps, and getting through each hour of each day. Here are some things you can do that can make this time a little easier:
1. Wallow
Wallowing in only natural after a break up, so take the time you need to hibernate and cry. You don’t need to become functional as soon as you are broken up. Your world as you know it has crumbled, so don’t worry about what people are going to think of you or what they expect you to do when you want to wallow. You need to give yourself time and space to feel the pain, and you can only begin to heal once you start acknowledging and going through the pain.
2. Reach Out To People
You might want to shut yourself away for days without any contact, but this is a crucial time for you to reach out to people for their help. The company we choose at this time will make all the difference when it comes to healing. Some people can seem like great company because they let you vent and express your anger, and even join you. However, this only ruins your mood and resolves nothing, and can actually be harmful for your overall mental health. People who let you speak your heart out and support you and guide you through this time can be the best company, and make sure they are someone you can trust. Some people might seem like they want to help us, but they are only looking for new gossip material.
3. Do Something New
Try to reclaim your individuality by doing something new, like taking up a new hobby or joining a class. There might be many places or activities that always remind you of your ex, so it’s important to move away from them and create new memories that can remind you things can get better. Moreover, if you can join a class or do something that involves other people, you will find new company for friendships and maybe even find new potential romantic relationships to pursue in the future.
4. Leave Behind Any Reminders Of Your Ex
It’s tempting to look at old photos or listen to songs that remind you of your ex because you want to hold onto something that was important to you, but this can be really detrimental if you are looking to move forward in your life. Even if it is hard and breaks your heart all over again, delete old pictures and remove any songs that have sentimental value attached to it. In the future, the song can be a fond memory and you can download it again, but for the time being, do what needs to be done to remove any source of distress. Putting yourself in pain on purpose will get you nowhere.
5. Delete Your Ex From Your Social Media Account
This is a problem that is more prevalent in today’s day because social media has taken over our lives. We have easy access to everything a person does, especially if they are very active on social media themselves. This means that we can still feel like we are a part of our ex’s life because we get to see what they are doing, but this also means we can never fully move on. Remove your ex from all social networking sites to give yourself peace of mind.
6. Forgive
This is undoubtedly the biggest challenge when it comes to healing a heart break, and though it may sound cliche, it is absolutely true. When we can forgive, we can let go of our negative emotions. Primarily, we feel anger for the way we have been treated, for the way things have worked out, and for how we are not able to get over someone despite being hurt so badly by them. Being able to forgive takes time, but when you can finally do it, it can be the first real moment of relief from the pain.
