“Can we do this tomorrow? I have a headache.”
This has always been thought of as a woman’s excuse to hide her lack of interest in sex. And somehow we always think all men are highly libidinous and are in a dire need of sex all the time. This unfortunate gender stereotype harms both the genders equally. Men can also have problems of low libido and lack of interest in sex. And somehow these problems with men can have a much deeper effect because of the appropriation of gender stereotypes that we have allowed in our society. When men say no to sex, who are always expected to be gung-ho about it; women start questioning themselves more vigorously. A woman starts thinking if her attractiveness has diminished or if her partner has stopped loving her when he shows a lack of interest in sex. Hence, this appropriation of gender stereotypes can end up harming both the genders and the relationship that they share with each other.
There are many reasons why men can also have such problems. Stress, work pressure, insecurities that men are required to deal with all alone in order to safeguard their “fake machismo” can give rise to these problems. But as a partner, you can do a quite a few things to help your man reinvigorate his passion and libido. The list of things that you can do to help a man to regain his interest in sex is given below.
1. Look Into His Medications
Check his prescriptions and see if he has started a new medication. Antidepressants can come with a side effect of diminished libido. If your partner is taking any anti-hair loss medications like propecia, lack of libido can happen due to that. Many other medications like anti-anxiety medications or beta-blockers can cause such undesirable reactions in people. If your partner is having such problems, then you can encourage him to talk to his doctor so that he can change his medications to something with lesser side-effects.
2. Encourage Him To Exercise
Physical fitness can bring about a huge change in the lives and health of people. You can encourage your partner to be more physically active by joining him in his quest. Take long walks after dinner or join a physical activity class with him. This will really help you and your partner in getting in shape, and getting your energies back both in bed and outside.
3. Lovingly Encourage Him To Seek Professional Help
His lack of interest in sex could stem from his erectile dysfunction which is a common problem with men. So, you can support him in his tough time and lovingly encourage him to seek professional help. Erectile dysfunction is a common and easily treatable problem. Men can tend to avoid sexual intercourse if they feel like they will under-perform. So, professional help can greatly help in solving this problem.
4. Help Him Deal With Stress
Stress can take a huge toll on men and their libido. So, if your partner has been under a lot of stress lately, talk to him and find out about it. Help him in dealing with his stress in a constructive way. A healing pair of ears and a supportive shoulder to lean on can help a person greatly to deal with their stress.
5. Communicate About The Problem
We often times sweep our problems under the rug if they are too uncomfortable to talk about. But it is not a healthy approach of dealing with problems. Talk to your partner about your problems and ask them about theirs. It will greatly help in solving your issues. Help your partner to take healthier choices in life. Sometimes, initiate sex yourself and don’t wait for the man to make the first move.
Help your partner to deal with his problems in a loving way. This will bring you closer to your partner and improve your overall relationship, including your sex life.
