“Can we do this tomorrow? I have a headache.”
This has always been thought of as a woman’s excuse to hide her lack of interest in sex. And somehow we always think all men are highly libidinous and are in a dire need of sex all the time. This unfortunate gender stereotype harms both the genders equally. Men can also have problems of low libido and lack of interest in sex. And somehow these problems with men can have a much deeper effect because of the appropriation of gender stereotypes that we have allowed in our society. When men say no to sex, who are always expected to be gung-ho about it; women start questioning themselves more vigorously. A woman starts thinking if her attractiveness has diminished or if her partner has stopped loving her when he shows a lack of interest in sex. Hence, this appropriation of gender stereotypes can end up harming both the genders and the relationship that they share with each other.
There are many reasons why men can also have such problems. Stress, work pressure, insecurities that
1. Look Into His Medications
Check his prescriptions and see if he has started a new medication. Antidepressants can come with a side effect of diminished libido. If your partner is taking any anti-hair loss medications like propecia, lack of libido can happen due to that. Many other medications like anti-anxiety medications or beta-blockers can cause such undesirable reactions in people. If your partner is having such problems, then you can encourage him to talk to his doctor so that he can change his medications to something with lesser side-effects.
2. Encourage Him To Exercise
Physical fitness can bring about a huge change in the lives and health of people. You can encourage your partner to be more physically active by joining him in his quest. Take long walks after dinner or join a physical activity class with him. This will really help you and your partner in getting in shape, and getting your energies back both in bed and outside.
3. Lovingly Encourage Him To Seek Professional Help
His lack of interest in sex could stem from his erectile dysfunction which is a common problem with men. So, you can support him in his tough time and lovingly encourage him to seek professional help. Erectile dysfunction is a common and easily treatable problem. Men can tend to avoid sexual intercourse if they feel like they will under-perform. So, professional help can greatly help in solving this problem.
4. Help Him Deal With Stress