Anger and joy are quite infectious emotions. However, even the highest of joys can be destroyed by just a single fit of rage. Whenever anger strikes, it’s natural to feel consumed by it. Discretion vanishes and with that arises the incessant urge to just vent.
It’s during these time, you need to take a moment to soak in the words of the awakened being, Buddha, “Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned”. Rather than letting your anger define you, there’ so much more you can do when it comes to anger management.
Ways To Cope With Anger Effectively
Here are 10 subtle yet powerful do’s and don’ts you can practice when you are mad at something.1
1. Take Yourself Lightly
Having the attitude of control freak is the sure-shot
2. Give The Benefit of Doubt
This is a great way to diffuse the rage rising within you. When someone you love or respect behaves weird, rather than getting angry about it practice some empathy. This could be thinking that maybe they didn’t mean it or they are too young or too old to understand. Just give yourself a slight boost and act mature by choosing not to react to their silliness.
3. Make Time For Introspection
If the same incident is driving you nuts every day, then it’s high time
4. Practice Meditation
Meditation is not a one shot formula for getting rid of anger. It’s a lifestyle practice that you can do every day for 30 minutes or more even if you are angry or not. Several studies have found that people who meditate daily greatly develop their compassion and tolerance levels.2
5. Accept People For Who They Are
We tend to
6. Distract Yourself
When angry, your mind will be occupied with nothing other than whatever irked you. The best thing to practice at this moment is to distract yourself with absolutely anything else. Hum a tune, try remembering a song’s lyrics, take 5–10 deep breaths, and maybe even get some fresh air.
A change of scenario will help your stress levels fall and eventually help you see things with more clarity and calmness.
7. Don’t Fight Dirty
When we see
8. Don’t Make Any Important Decisions
While you are in a fit of rage, your decision-making skills are comparable to that of an alcoholic. Refrain from making life-altering decisions when you are angry as they are likely to be rash. These include getting a tattoo done in rage or succumbing to suicidal tendencies. Always remember that no moment is forever and that applies to whatever you are experiencing currently.
9. Don’t Resort To Physical Assault
Physical assault is a strict no-no. Regardless of how
10. Don’t Talk Behind The Back
If you are mad at someone, don’t talk about it to the rest of the world other than the individual you had a problem with. This prevents so many silly judgments and rumors from arising. Nowadays, people use various cyber platforms to hurt or taunt others. This is also one example of talking behind the back and is indeed a cowardly act.
That’s all it takes to put a lid on all kinds of anger. Without any second thoughts, start practicing them from today.