4 Crucial Ways Porn Affects Your Relationship

Watching pornography is not just a type of pastime or habit. Porn viewing can be addictive and cause rifts in human relationships. Being addicted to porn can inflict negative perceived effects such as unrealistic sexual expectations, decreased sexual interest in the partner, and increased insecurity.

Porn viewing can reduce satisfaction with one’s partner’s physical appearance, sexual performance, and affection. It can increase secrecy, cause less intimacy, and result in depression, which leads to further issues.1 But, the effects are not limited to sexual relationships. Porn addiction can take away valuable time with family and friends. It can affect your relationship with them and cause lasting negative impressions that can ruin relationships for life. Let us look at exactly how viewing porn can be addictive and how it affects relationships with family, spouse, and self.

1. Watching Porn Is Addictive

Porn is more addictive than drugs

Neural pathways are the groove

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the brain becomes accustomed to functioning within, which is true for porn addiction. For instance, if a person consistently has coffee first thing in the morning, neural pathways are accustomed to this groove. Experiences, seemingly quite harmless, can have a profound effect by altering the organizational structure of the brain, both during development and in adulthood. With regular and consistent exposure to porn, sexual tastes alter and profound brain changes can occur resulting in a reduced desire for the real thing.

Porn watchers experience abnormal sexual responses normally associated with significant levels of distress. It is also found that when porn is taken away, these conditions reverse. People who stopped viewing porn reported huge benefits including increased energy, mental clarity and the ability to express empathy, be present and authentically connect. Quitting porn restores human dignity on so many levels.2

2. Porn Hurts Your Partner

Your partner can be affected both mentally and physically due to porn

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Relationships nowadays are very hard to maintain with a variety of pitfalls. When you add addiction to the mix, you have the potential for frustration, anger, and pain – in a word, failure. Often, those who engage in viewing pornographic content do so in secret and hide it from their partners. A majority of spouses may consider this action as cheating and a betrayal of trust.3

Frequent porn use also increases the chance of medical issues like erectile dysfunction in men and lessened sexual activity with the partner. When the brain has been rewired to be addicted to unrealistic porn performers that present sexuality at an unworkable, unattainable level, and when the viewer is faced with a real partner, he/she has trouble climaxing during sex.

It also makes the other partner feel hurt that he/she is not good enough and not adventurous enough to satisfy his/her partner. It teaches the viewers to minimize the sexual trauma of

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others. Hence, viewing violent and abusive pornographic content can instill adverse sexual behavior with the real partner, further damaging the relationship.4

3. Porn Is Associated With Health Issues

Unsafe sex can cause STDs and other sexual diseases

Porn can also cast a bad spell on your own health. When the emotional intimacy in your marriage is impaired and your sexual desires are welling up deep within you, you start to look for other means to satisfy the desire. You may end up seeking sexual favors outside your marriage which can cause emotional trauma, guilt and health issues.

Internet pornography users are more likely to have extramarital sex when their sexual desires go unmet with their partners. Unmarried people may resort to premarital sex and due to their lack

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awareness on safe sex practices, one may end up contracting diseases such as AIDS, STDs and the like, some of which are fatal.5

4. Porn Can Influence Your Beliefs At A Young Age

With the easy access of internet, kids can also get affected from porn

The Internet is very easily accessible and is the most common medium for consuming pornographic material, especially for kids. Children who spend time away from family watching porn frequently, especially in the teenage years, feel isolated and lonely. Adverse effects of porn viewing in children include exposure to the objectification of women at a very young age, entanglement in family conflicts and lack of attention in anything.

The longer the child watches porn, the more destructive it is to the mental health of the child. Prolonged exposure also reduces

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the desire to have children in future and promotes the acceptance of male dominance and female servitude. It increases the tolerance to pre-marital sex and greater tolerance to many sexual partners.6

Self-control is the key to getting rid of a porn addiction just like coming out of any other substance or habitual addiction. Once you decide to escape this addictive habit, seek help. If your obsession is too deep, seek professional help. You can help your partner towards recovery if you discover that he/she is suffering from a porn addiction as healthy interpersonal relationships are beneficial in helping escape the addiction and sustaining it.

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