We don’t really need reasons to have sex if we’re sexually healthy individuals. Without risking wasting your time, let’s just assume you enjoy it, it makes you feel good, and you think about it at least once a day (even if you blatantly deny it).
If you’re facing problems between the sheets or you simply want to rekindle the fire in your relationship, read on to know what you can do to get your libido gyrating to way more than ‘just satisfying’ levels. (You’re welcome.)
1. Eat Right
It all comes down to your stomach, doesn’t it? The way to a man’s heart is through his stomach…and yours.
It holds true for men as well. Incorporating aphrodisiacs (read: foods that stimulate sexual desire) in your meals works like breath mints before a planned (or unplanned for the ‘always prepared’ sort) kiss with your lover.
- Wild Salmon – Rich in omega-3s, this mood-lifter works by helping your nerves and brain function the way they’re intended to.
- Raw Oysters – High in zinc, it protects your manhood (read: testosterone and sperm). It also contains dopamine, a stress reliever and libido booster.
- Black Raspberries – Rich in eros-boosting phytochemicals, both the seed and fruit can make you feel a little, well…kinky.
- Dark Chocolate – This popular indulgence, especially among women, contains a chemical called phenylethylamine that makes you feel all twinkle eyed and cupid struck a.k.a. in love.
- Avocado – Known as the Aztecs’ “testicle tree,” avocados are rich in vitamin B6 (helps in the production of male hormones) and potassium (regulates the thyroid in women). Their energy-boosting folic acid help you go ‘One more time!’ without a second thought.
- Asparagus – Also rich in folic acid and potassium.
- Almonds – Their very smell is alluring, especially for the weaker sex. Rich in essential fatty acids, they help in male hormone synthesis.
- Broccoli – Its vitamin C gets your blood pumping to all your organs, including those of steamy discussions–the reproductive organs.
- Pumpkin Seeds – Rich in zinc and omega-3s, they boost the sexual appetite in both sexes.
- Horny Goat Weed (or Yin Yang Huo) – This Asian plant stays true to its name, stirring up concupiscence in both men and women.
2. Just Breathe
Take deep breaths. Focus on each breath as you gently inhale and exhale.
This helps you relax your muscles and reduces your performance anxiety. Tense muscles may cause you to come too early, quite the nightmare when trying to satisfy your partner.
3. Don’t Overtrain
People driving themselves up the wall to lose weight are not helping their cause in bed. Pushing yourself beyond reasonable limits while exercising may adversely affect your sexual stamina. So, you might want to keep the weight loss enthusiasm in check.
4. Do Yoga
It isn’t really difficult to imagine how yoga could possibly help boost your sex drive. The Kama Sutra and yoga are ancient Indian nonpareils that seem to naturally be associated with being carnal.
‘How long can you go?’ is a question that daunts many couples. The embarrassment and frustration from lack of stamina, inability to bend into poses, and climaxing prematurely can drive your self-confidence down the gutter. But fear not. Yoga can be the yang to your yin.
Better control and strength of pelvic (kegel), groin, abdominal, and back muscles and improved stamina is resounding with good news for your carnal desires–you will last longer in bed. Also, the feeling of ‘This looks possible and fun’ and not ‘How is that even possible!’ when reading the Kama Sutra (you will be surprised at your own acquired flexibility) is bound to create multiple turning points in your sex life. Becoming more aware of every touch and sensation as your focus shifts to your breaths will take your climaxes to unimaginable heights. You will feel less of the pressure to perform and more of the desire to soak it all in.
Give these sex-worthy yoga asanas a try…
1. Cow/Dog Pose (Marjariasana): This asana increases flexibility in the groin and thighs. Do not do it if you have a spine or knee injury.
2. Lizard Pose (Utthan Pristhasana): This pose, too, increases flexibility in the hips, groin, and thighs.
3. Eagle Pose (Garudasana): Visually alluring, this yoga pose pumps blood to the cervical area.
4. Bridge Pose (Setu Bandhasana): Stronger pelvic floor muscles are guaranteed with this muscle-strengthening exercise.
5. Sitting Wide-Legged Straddle Pose (Upavistha Konasana): You may sit up straight while doing this or bend forward till your head touches the floor. A challenging test of flexibility, this pose increases blood flow to the groin area.
6. Plow Pose (Halasana): This gravity-defying pose stimulates the brain and prevents back injury during sex.
7. Lotus Pose (Padmasana): Well stretched thighs and hips inevitably translate to better sex.
8. Child’s Pose (Shishuasana): This asana relaxes your body and mind, making you feel as care free as a child.
9. Legs-Up-the-Wall Pose (Viparita Karani): Another gravity-defying pose, it increases blood circulation in the pelvic area.
10. Downward Dog Pose (Adho Mukha Svanasana):A basic yoga pose, it will hone your yoga skills in the long run.
11. Goddess Pose (Utkata Konasana): While making you feel divine in your body, this pose can ease menstrual cramps.
5. Go Red
Women perceive men to be more attractive and sexually desirable when seen on a red background and in red clothing.1 This red effect theory (not surprisingly) holds true for men, too.2 Have fun with the color of love flaunting it in your lingerie, your bed covers, and even on your bedroom walls.
And…you’re back in the game!
A good romp in the hay once a week has been proved to keep you happy and content.3 So, dim the lights, play some music, and while you’re at it, consider trying these tips.
|↑1||Elliot AJ, Kayser DN, Greitemeyer T, Lichtenfeld S, Gramzow RH, Maier MA, Liu H. Red, rank, and romance in women viewing men. J Exp Psychol Gen. 2010.|
|↑2||Elliot AJ, Niesta D. Romantic red: red enhances men’s attraction to women. J Pers Soc Psychol. 2008.|
|↑3||Muise, Amy, Ulrich Schimmack, and Emily A. Impett. “Sexual frequency predicts greater well-being, but more is not always better.” Social Psychological and Personality Science 7, no. 4 (2016): 295-302.|