There are times when couples don’t know how to spice things up in the bedroom. Most often, they hesitate to reach out to a qualified sex therapist or even a gynecologist to talk about their sex lives and how they can make it better.
If you are hesitant about talking your bedroom worries to an expert, here are a few sex tips that could help you and your partner work things together for a better sex life.
1. Try Lubes To Ease Painful Sex
A common complaint from women when it comes to sexual intercourse is painful sex. Vaginal dryness is one of the causes of painful sex which is most common during menopause. It could also be because of a low libido or heightened stress levels. If this is stopping you from having some private time with your partner, then you should try using lubricants for less painful sex. In addition to adequate foreplay, using lubricants can keep your lady parts moist and can reduce the pain, if any, during sexual intercourse.
2. Help Yourself In Bed
Sometimes it may seem difficult to reach an orgasm when you have sex with your partner. This can bring some tension for you and your partner, but it is absolutely normal. For unexplained reasons, if you find it difficult to climax, touching yourself during sex or mutual masturbation can help the situation. If you are used to masturbating, help yourself to reach an orgasm by doing the things you’d do if you were alone. This way your partner will also know what is to be done to make the experience more pleasurable.
3. Ensure You And Your Partner Are Clean
When you are sure to have sex a particular night, you make sure your body is clean – free of body odor and the so-called embarrassing pubic hair. This makes you look clean and feel clean, too. But, there is more to cleanliness when it comes to sex. Even “dirty” sex as some would call it requires you and your partner to be clean. The most important thing to keep in mind is to make sure your hands (and your partner’s hands) are clean before the big night. Your hands are prone to bacteria, especially E.coli bacteria that is present in your fecal matter. Exposing your vagina to this bacteria can cause a urinary tract infection. So, don’t forget to wash your hands thoroughly before you hit the sheets. You can also shower together before some real action!
4. Play Out Your Fantasies
Let’s face it – sometimes doing the same things over and over again with the same partner may seem a little boring. That’s where your fantasies come into play. Talk to your partner about what he or she fantasizes about. Try and mimic the appearance of your partner’s fantasies. Probably, your partner can do the same the next time. Before you ask your partner to do anything kinky, just make sure he or she agrees to it. Make sure both of you are on the same page before you try anything new.
5. Change Positions To Keep It Exciting
For those of you who experience pain during sexual intercourse, experimenting with different positions may help. This will help you and your partner decide what you are comfortable with during sex. Sometimes, you can also adjust the angle of the penis for more comfortable penetration or adjust your pelvis to feel less pain. It is really hard to point to one sex position and call it the best because it differs from person to person. You need to experiment and find it out for yourself.
Spicing things up in your sex life cannot be difficult if you communicate well with your partner. If something is not working for you, all you need to do is talk about it with your partner. Try these easy tips and see what works for you and your partner!