Women always have a lot on their plates. And a lot can often drain us of our energies and confidence. This is when complacency creeps in our lives. And suddenly, we stop doing things to the best of our abilities. Losing confidence in one’s ability is never great for anyone. So, what can women do to thrive regardless of their situations?
Women stop thriving when they lose perspective on life and who they are in life. Bestselling author Dominique Bertolucci discusses this issue in her book, The Kindness Pact. She writes about the importance of self-compassion and making promises to oneself. All women must make a few promises to themselves in order to preserve their core values that can help them to be who they want to be. She says that there are eight promises that every woman can make to herself which she should follow through till the end to be the best she can be. Here is a list of those eight promises.
1. Embrace Your Imperfections
Perfection is a faulty concept as there is no such thing as perfect. Every person has a different definition for it. So, why go through all the trouble to be someone else’s version of perfect? It’s alright to not be perfect. Embrace your imperfections because we are meant to be flawed. That is what makes us human. So, let yourself free from the shackles of perfectionism that are stopping you from being you.
2. Strive To Do Your Best
You don’t have to be better than everyone else. You just have to try to be the best you can be. And for that you must always try to do everything realistically and to do it to the best of your capability. You can set an impossible goal for yourself and expect to achieve that in a short span of time. But that is a recipe for failure. So, focus on what you can do and do it in the best possible way.
3. Don’t Compare Yourself
Social comparison is a natural human urge that we all have in us. But you need to keep in mind that you are neither more nor less than anyone you see, whether it’s a successful friend or a celebrity you admire. You are enough. Always remember that when you compare yourself with others. And strive to be the best you can be.
4. Trust Your Ability To Achieve
We spend a lot of time thinking about things that might not happen. When we do that, we send our subconscious a message of what we want in our lives. So, instead of worrying, focus all your energy on the opportunities that you have in hand because that is how you can change your life one step at a time.
5. Shut Your Inner Critic Up
The negative voice in your head will always tell you that you can’t do things you want to. But it is important that you don’t fall into that trap. You need to silence your inner critic and push yourself forward in life fearlessly to achieve everything that you want to achieve.
6. Push Your Boundaries
We often forget to challenge ourselves in life because we get too comfortable with our mediocrity sometimes. That is why you need to remember that and challenge yourself to do better in life. In order to achieve in life, we must step outside of our comfort zone.
7. Bid Adieu To Your Excuses
We will always stop ourselves from going after greatness if we don’t get rid of our excuses to do so. We all have something in our lives that would stop us from going after what we want. But we must stop using them as our excuse to not do something. So, drop your excuses and go after your dreams.
8. Love Yourself
If you want to feel good about your life, you must build around you an aura of love and self-confidence. It is only when you love yourself, you can love the life you live and everything about it.
Make these eight promises to yourself today and witness the change in your life.