7 Things Anxious People Do That Others Don’t Realize

Living with anxiety can be difficult because of the effects it has on you. It makes it even more difficult because people around you don’t understand why you do the things you do. People just think that you worry too much and take life too seriously. If they were in your head, they’d probably know but that is not even remotely possible so, it just gets that much more harder.

If you have a friend who has anxiety issues, here’s a chance to understand him or her better. If you are that anxious one, you’d probably know the following are true.

Things People Don’t Realize You’re Doing Because Of Anxiety

1. Make Excuses To Escape Social Gatherings

Anxious People Make Excuses To Escape Social Gatherings

Your friends are making plans for Saturday night but you convince them that you can’t make it because you have “a thing” to do the same weekend. If you have anxiety issues, you know you’ve done this before. You get anxiety attacks

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and realize that you don’t want to mess up the day because of your lack of energy and you make your excuses and let your friends go out instead without you.

If you’re not the anxious one and know of a friend who does this, convince her to make it and tell how just her presence can make you feel better, even if it means the others are going.

2. Hide Your Feelings And Pretend To Be Okay

Anxious People Hide Feelings And Pretend To Be Okay

Sometimes, you end up hiding your feelings from the others around you because you don’t know why you feel the way you do. If you are going to be open about your feelings, there are going to be a lot of questions you’d have to answer and that will probably get you even more anxious. To avoid this, you just keep to yourself and shut your feelings inside you.

Sometimes, if you do share your feelings and people are concerned

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about you that will heighten your anxiety. So, to avoid this you end up pretending to be okay. When someone asks how you’re doing, you lie anyways and tell them you’re doing well. This saves you from being noticed; however, it only makes it worse for you.

3. Go To Bed Late But Wake Up Early

Anxious People Have Sleep Disturbances

If you have anxiety, then you know that sleep is not your best friend. Your mind is constantly awake because of your anxiety and that delays your sleep. Before you know it, it’s past midnight and you have to force yourself to sleep. Even if you do, your mental alarm is up and you know you are up early the following day. It’s another anxious day and you can never go back to sleep again because that’s how much anxiety is affecting you.

4. Overthink And Blame Yourself Way Too Much

Anxious People Overthink And Blame Themselves A Lot

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You’ve sent a text to your friend and you don’t get a reply instantly. You immediately end up thinking what you’ve written was wrong. You go back and keep thinking about what could have possibly gone wrong. You start to blame yourself and think that something you said would have hurt your friend. The truth is they just got held up at work or they just did not see your text notification.

This is just one of the many instances you ended up overthinking and blaming yourself. This exhausts you mentally and you just don’t have the energy to do anything that you like.

5. Picture The Worst Case Scenario Always

Anxious People Picture The Worst Case Scenario Always

Your going on a vacation that requires you to travel to another country. You have everything sorted and packed, including your passport and other essentials. The previous night you can’t get sleep because all you

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are thinking about is “what if I drop the passport on the way” or “what if I miss the flight.”

If you are an anxious person or know of someone who has anxiety, you realize that picturing the worst case scenario in any situation is a normal thing to do.

6. Please Everyone Around You

Anxious People Please Everyone Around Them

Your anxiety makes you want to please everyone around you. So, you are careful with your words and actions and you are always thinking about the effects your words and actions can have on the others. You make sure you don’t hurt them and that ends up being the most important thing to you than what you feel. It’s practically not possible to please everyone you meet, because then you’d be living your life for the others and not for yourself.

7. Compare Your Life With Others Your Age

Anxious People Compare Their Lives With Others Their Age

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Social media is just not for you if you have anxiety. You’re in your mid 20s and you see the posts of your friends who are either married or getting engaged or celebrating their promotions at work. You’re just in your jammies and thinking where you stand in your life. You are constantly comparing your life with the others you know and you begin to think that you’ve not achieved half the things they have.

This is normal for an anxious individual. You should realize that everyone comes up in life at some point or the other. For some, it is today and for the others, it may be the next year. For you, it may be the year after that. This does not mean you should get worked up about where you’ve reached in life now. It’s okay if others are doing better than you; just be grateful for where you are now and give yourself time to achieve more.

So, now you realize that living with anxiety is not a joke.

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If your friend has anxiety issues, let them know that you accept them for who they are and that nothing is wrong with them. Spend quality time together and be a good listener when they speak to you. Don’t tease or talk to them with disrespect.