A lot of us have been told that when we are looking for love, confidence and self-assurance is key of we want to attract someone into our life. We are told that no one can love us if we don’t love ourselves, and while that is easy to believe, not all of us know how to love ourselves. We can’t be confident about ourselves until we accept ourselves for who we are, and this can only happen is we are self-aware. The term self-awareness is pretty self-explanatory, but it is also used to the point of being superfluous and redundant. This is because though we understand the meaning of self-awareness, not all us know how to BE self-aware. Self-awareness comes with a lot of benefits, especially non-judgmental self-awareness of ourselves and our thought processes. Emotional intelligence and regulation are one of the most important and underrated benefits. Talking to a mental health practitioner can help you to find your way around self-awareness, but you can also take small steps to lead yourself there slowly but surely:
Writing is one of the most cathartic things you can do, because it helps you to sort out and figure out things that are on your mind and crystallize a jumble of thoughts that might be bothering you. It doesn’t always have to be your thoughts written down in a journal, you can also be creative with how you express yourself. Turning your situation into a short story, or trying to understand someone else’s thoughts by writing what they might be thinking can also help you to see things from a new perspective. There are a number of ways that writing can be done, but the end goal is always the same: expression and self-awareness. Sometimes, we may surprise ourselves through our writing because thoughts and feelings we didn’t know about have a way of surfacing.
2. Be Open To New Things
Trying new things is one of the best ways you can become more aware of yourself. Many of us are afraid to venture outside our comfort due to a number of reasons, but this only keeps us stuck in one place. New things give us insight into how we react to things we don’t know about, and can give us a better idea of who we really are. Start with something small, like trying a dish you’ve always heard about but never really eaten. This can then be progressed to trying activities, like gardening or cooking, and see how you feel about these things. This helps you out of a rut, and can even help you find new passions and interests that can make your life much better.
3. Solid Goals And Dreams
Every one of us has a dream, but not all of us have a solid goal that can be reached with a semi-solid plan. For example, a dream might be the change the world, but not how a person intends to change the world. A person might want to help people, but they may not have a plan of action to do so. Therefore, finding solid and objective way to define and go after our goals can help us find a better path. If you want to change the world, maybe you can do so by educating children, or by being part of a group that cleans up polluted areas. If you want to help people, you can be a nurse at a hospital, or by answering calls at a suicide hotline. There are a number of ways you can make an impact in the world, but having a definite plan makes all the difference when you want to take action.
4. Focus On Yourself, Not Others
It can feel really natural to gravitate towards being selfless and helpful to others when we feel really awful on the inside, especially because we have been told that being there for others makes us feel really good too. However, the saying that “you can’t give from an empty vessel” is starkly true. Before we are able to help others, we must be able to help ourselves. Focus on doing things for yourself, even if it seems “selfish” to others. If you have a passion that makes you happy, approach it even if other people don’t understand it. If you don’t feel like hanging out with your friends and staying in to have a night for yourself, take the opportunity to relax and rejuvenate. Being “selfish” helps you to reorient yourself and figure out your priorities. Once you know yourself well enough, you can get back to the world a much better and more confident person than before.