Modern times come with a lot of emphasis on superficial elements. The real things in recent times can take a back seat sometimes. We live in a social media driven world where filtered photos garner more likes than an introspective piece of literature. People are constantly compared and judged based on their looks, views, likes and dislikes. So much judgment can take a huge toll on our self-esteem. Self-esteem is not an easy thing to come by in normal circumstances. Hence, in today’s critical world holding on to your self-esteem can be quite a task.
Passing judgments have become as easy as putting out a creative piece. So, there are times when harsh judgments and rejection can really affect our self-esteem. What can we do in our times to gain back our self-esteem after it has been shattered? Well, there are a few simple things that can help us in boosting our self-esteem after a big hit.
1. Be Nice To A Loved One
Doing something nice for someone close to you is the quickest way of gaining some happiness in life. When we can selflessly do some good for someone we love, then we can see how trivial and frivolous things can be. Also, it gives us a new perspective about ourselves and our capabilities. We wouldn’t feel completely useless if we know that we can bring some good into this world.
2. Smile Big And Bright
Smiling big is another quick way of changing one’s mood. It takes around seconds for your brain to register that you are smiling. Then, your brain starts producing endorphins which are neurotransmitters responsible for uplifting our moods. It increase our happiness quotient by several folds. So, hold on to your humor when you are feeling low as it will give you a quick way to restore your self-esteem back to its normal state. Smiling is one of the rare things in life that doesn’t harm us in anyway. And as the saying goes,“When you smile, the world smiles with you.” So, smile and spread the joy around you.
3. Gain Some Perspective Through Public Service
There are a lot of things that we can do to give back to the world in positive ways. Hold a door for a stranger. It will cheer both you and the stranger you held the door for. Greet the security guard at your office and ask him or her how he or she is doing. This might not make a big difference to your life, but it will definitely make his/her day better. Be the reason behind a stranger’s smile today to feel good about your place in the world.
4. Learn A New Skill
There is nothing more empowering than learning something new. As we grow old, we often stop learning, and become stagnated with our skills and education. We can easily break that monotony by picking up a new skill. Join a nearby baking class, or enroll yourself in a foreign language class. A new skill can amp up your confidence level. When we are feeling low, we have a lot of energy that we use to focus on the bad. But instead of sitting and moping, we can redirect that energy into learning something new and enrich our lives in more meaningful ways.
5. Be Alive In The Moment
We often feel bad about ourselves because we are either reminiscing an old trauma or thinking about an imminent tragedy. We never live in the moment. Remember that in this moment right now, you are alive and enough. So, instead of feeling bad about yourself, just focus on enjoying the moment you are currently in. Don’t bring down your worth by comparing yourself to others and your success with theirs. Everybody has a different path to walk on. So, comparison is a waste of time as your path might not be same as others. Focus on yourself and your happiness instead of comparing.
Self-esteem is a fragile entity of one’s personality. But, we can harden it up by toughening up ourselves. So, focus on self-care as opposed to self-pity.