A relationship is one of the most important, if not the most important part of our lives. When we meet someone new and make a commitment together, it can be a wonderful and happy thing. Though it’s a given that every couple goes through a honeymoon phase, it is what comes after that really tests the strength and bond of a relationship. Even though most of us make promises and hope for them to be realized in the future, not all relationships end up having a future. It can be confusing and hurtful when a couple is going through a rough patch, and it can be difficult to understand whether you should continue and keep fighting, or leave the relationship behind and start over. If you’re in a bad place, and are looking for signs that can make the path clearer, this article could help you. If your relationship is showing these signs, it may be time to start over:
No Acceptance Between Each Other
If you have been trying to change some things about your partner, or he/she is doing the same to you, it might be time to step back and think about it a little. There is no denying that everyone changes in a relationship, but the base personality will always remain the same. In fact, it could actually be the reason you wanted to be with the person in the first place. However, if those quirky mannerisms are getting on your nerves too much, or you find that you have a distinct difference in your value systems, it could mean that you’re looking for someone different.
The Hard Times Are Much Too Hard
Every relationship comes with its fair share of hard times, but how you handle them together is what makes the relationship. If you find your partner’s way of handling stress too annoying and you never want to sort it out together, or your partner pulls away from you when you need them the most, this pattern won’t be stopping anytime soon. It might be time to move on to something better.
Needs Not Met
Everyone comes with their own needs, both physical and emotional. You are in a relationship to meet each other’s needs, and if you can’t or don’t feel like doing that for your partner or vice versa, it could be trouble. Realistic needs are also important: being clingy and demanding is a sure way of leading a relationship to its end. At the end of the day, if your partner is more absent than present, you are probably with the wrong person.
Not On The Same Page
If both of you don’t have the same vision of the future, it causes a rift in the relationship. It’s important to sit down and have a conversation if things are becoming more serious in the relationship, and if both of you realize you want different things, it is always best to part ways. A person who wants to get married and settle down isn’t going to be happy being with someone who wants to travel solo for a few years.
A relationship is a two-way street, so if your partner isn’t willing to meet you half way, or put in their share of the effort, you are going to have a hard time. If you don’t feel like doing more for the relationship, or making your partner happy despite the effort, then you are also not in the right place to be in a relationship. It takes two to tango, so if one of you isn’t dancing, it doesn’t work.
Lack Of Trust
Trust is the most important pillar in a relationship, so if it’s lacking, you can be sure that things are going to come crashing down. The trust needs to be implicit, and there is no excuse to be suspicious if your partner hasn’t done anything wrong. If however, due to past experiences, you aren’t able to trust your partner, or your partner doesn’t trust you, it is a red flag and both of you might be better off ending the relationship.
The Gut Feeling
Finally, be honest and true to yourself and ask yourself whether you really see yourself being with this person in the long run. You might be running away from the all too obvious answer because you might be afraid to be alone, or you think you can’t do better, but being with someone that makes you unhappy will always end badly for you. You can overcome challenges presented when you’re alone, and you will be surprised by what the Universe has to offer, so if your gut is telling you to walk away, do it. You never know what will come your way.