Fantasies give us an opportunity to create a world of imagination where things are in sync with our desires. Fantasies can be of various kinds. It can be a simple guilty pleasure like a candy that you want to indulge yourself in. But sometimes our fantasies can stem from a hidden place of sexual desires. Unfortunately, we have been socially programmed to suppress our sexual desires. But does that yield us any good result? One wonders.
The part of the body that is solely responsible for libido and sexual desires is the brain. Most sexual fantasies revolve around the basic themes like rule breaking, domination or submission. But sometimes we can end up having fantasies that are very unusual. It is really normal for you to wonder about your sanity when that happens, but it is nothing to be concerned about usually. But usually people deal with their sexual fantasies by suppressing them deep inside their subconscious.
What Happens When We Accept Our Fantasies?
Some people are blessed with more vivid imagination than others. So, there are chances that some of us end up having vivid scenarios built up in our head with our sexual fantasies. It can make you wonder why you are equally concerned and aroused at the same time. We often don’t realize the power that we are sitting on. You can tap into a goldmine of erotic fuel through your sexual fantasies. This can really shape the way your sex life works. When you allow yourself to fantasize freely about your deepest and darkest desires, you liberate yourself from the guilt and allow yourself to experience pleasure in a more liberated way. And when that happens you can be astonished at your own sense of erotica.
Fantasies Pave The Way For Healing
Our fantasies can play a big part in our healing process. Our sexual fantasies have an incredible power to initiate that healing in us. According to the book Your Brain on Sex by Dr. Stanley Siegel, our brains are continuously working to heal itself in our dream state as well as in our fantasy state. Dr. Siegel sheds some light on the issue of subconscious healing in this book. He suggests that the subconscious brain works tirelessly to fix our unresolved issues and conflicts when we sleep. The brain allows itself to develop and reconstruct our broken pieces when we are asleep. The brain does the exact same thing during puberty. Our subconscious tries to seek pleasure out of our pain using our fantasies as a medium.
The creation of sexual fantasies starts at the stage of adolescence without the active participation of our conscious minds. Our unresolved emotional issues from childhood like abandonment, overbearing or emotionally unavailable parents, feeling of letting others down can give rise to our sexual fantasies. It is the tricky way our subconscious tries to use our pain to rewire it to a sense of pleasure. But since our fantasies are not filtered through the sieve of critical thinking, we often tend to feel all kinds of emotions like embarrassed, ashamed or even scared.
Liberation Lies Beyond The Acceptance
Acceptance comes with a deep understanding and analogizing. We can run away from our desires or accept them to see their effects. It will take some time for you to come to terms with it. But when you have accepted your fantasies and found the courage to share it with your partner, you will experience a sense of liberation. Liberation is a powerful feeling. And when you can accept your fantasies and let it play out in real life, you will be able to tap into your erotic base and experience pleasure at a completely different level. Power play and positions of submission and dominance in sex are universal themes. And the positions might change with your fantasies, but the end game will always be pleasure as long as two partners are willing to spice it up in their bedroom consensually.
So, don’t let your fantasies make you feel ashamed or scared. Take back the control, accept and see where it leads you to.