Sex is intimate, intense, and everything in between. It’s like a secret language that only two people can understand. Sex is a lot of things. One might argue that it’s tricky to get to know a partner. However, once you do, it’s about keeping the fire alive. You might be tempted to focus on physical technique. Yet, sex is so much more than that. It’s affected by so many factors – some of which will surprise you. Learn about them with these nine amazing sex tips.
1. Get Enough Sleep
We’ve heard it time and time again. Sleep is good for you! But did you know it helps your sex life, too? According to The Journal of Sexual Medicine, sleep deprivation is linked to sexual function. You’ll have a hard time feeling aroused.1 This can dampen the mood, so rest up.
2. Do Kegels
To strengthen your vaginal muscles, do Kegel exercises. They’ll help sex feel amazing by making you stronger and tighter.
- To start, imagine you need to pee. Tighten your muscles as if you’re holding it in. Hold for eight seconds, then relax for 10. This is a Kegel exercise.
- For every set, do 10 Kegel exercises. Repeat the set three times each day.2
3. Use A Code Word
Have a code word for sex. This “insider language” will strengthen your bond, says the Journal of Communication. You’ll feel much closer to each other.3 After all, when it comes to sex, a connection is everything!
4. Start A Competition
Keep things playful by challenging your partner. At the bar, play a game of darts or pool. Once you get home, race each other to the bedroom. That dose of competition will make sparks fly.
5. Put Your Phone Away
These days, smartphones are a major social distraction. It’s no different in the bedroom. Instead of mindlessly scrolling, tuck away your phone. Talk to your partner. By enjoying the person’s presence, sex will be much better.
6. Keep Your Underwear On
Don’t be so quick to remove your underwear. Sure, it seems counterproductive. But hear us out. By keeping it on, you’ll build up the tension. Leave it up to them to take it off. This will subtly tease your partner as things heat up.
7. Do It In The Afternoon
Sex is often linked to nighttime. Morning sex, on the other hand, is a popular favorite. What about the afternoon? This time is unusual, but that’s the point. It’ll mix up the normal routine. Plus, knowing that it can’t wait is a major turn-on.
8. Make Eye Contact
To strengthen a bond, make eye contact. This simple act has a strong association with the “love hormone” – oxytocin.4 It’ll reel your partner right in.
9. Leave The Lights On
Both men and women are visual beings. Sexual arousal highly depends on what they see!5
To use this to your advantage, don’t turn off the lights. Make it easy to see each other. If this makes you feel insecure, remember that your partner isn’t paying attention to your flaws. They’re focused on you.
Feel free to adapt these tips to your liking. Sex is different for every couple. Most importantly, do what makes you feel comfortable.
|↑1||Kalmbach, David A., J. Todd Arnedt, Vivek Pillai, and Jeffrey A. Ciesla. “The impact of sleep on female sexual response and behavior: a pilot study.” The journal of sexual medicine 12, no. 5 (2015): 1221-1232.|
|↑2||Kegel exercises – self care. MedlinePlus.|
|↑3||Hopper, Robert, Mark L. Knapp, and Lorel Scott. “Couples’ personal idioms: Exploring intimate talk.” Journal of Communication 31, no. 1 (1981): 23-33.|
|↑4||Auyeung, B., M. V. Lombardo, M. Heinrichs, Bhisma Chakrabarti, A. Sule, J. B. Deakin, R. A. I. Bethlehem et al. “Oxytocin increases eye contact during a real-time, naturalistic social interaction in males with and without autism.” Translational psychiatry 5, no. 2 (2015): e507.|
|↑5||Lykins, Amy D., Marta Meana, and Gregory P. Strauss. “Sex differences in visual attention to erotic and non-erotic stimuli.” Archives of sexual behavior 37, no. 2 (2008): 219-228.|