There is no perfect time to have a child because you are never prepared for it. While many agree to it, there are also those who consider giving priorities to themselves, be it career goals or life goals. Most of the times, it is the women who have a lot to worry about.
The ticking biological clock offers a monthly alarm system that indirectly points out that ‘make babies before it gets too late.’ It is true that fertility in women reaches its peak by the time they are in their early twenties. Women under the age of 19-26 are twice likely to get pregnant as compared to women aged between 35-39 years.1
After the age of 30, the frequency of ovulation reduces making it difficult to conceive. The age factor also causes the risk of miscarriages and pregnancy complications. While it is not just the reproductive system that receives a setback, other
Despite that, women, these days prefer to prioritize their jobs over kids—20s is the time when they make career choices and want to be dedicated towards their ambitions. Considering that this will also make them financially stable and help them develop a secure environment for their kids, women often delay when it comes to starting a family. Though it is a slightly risky deal with mother nature, it is very much convenient and possible.
Becoming a mother in your early 20s is equally perfect. Though it may cross your mind whether you will have enough savings by that time to support your family. There may be times where you will be living paycheck-to-paycheck and be prudent in your financial management.
However, the truth is, your child won’t need all those overpriced accessories and possessions that you think you should have in your house once your baby arrives. Your baby needs you and your love and care, more than anything else to grow up to be happy and healthy.
However, working or studying is something you can still continue when you are on a journey to become a parent or already a parent. With options like freelancing, more and more women are getting back to work after birth. According to the census data by the Pew Research Center, the percentage of women who work full time during pregnancy has increased from 40% to 56%, whereas the number of expecting women who work part-time has increased from 5% to 6%.2 With little determination and lots of time-management, you can find a way to make the things work
Susan Wojcicki, the CEO of Youtube, the most popular video-sharing site, mentioned in an interview with TODAY that she joined Google when she was 4-months pregnant, which she felt was a big deal but the right thing to do at that time. She also advised women who are balancing family and career and said that the really hectic phase after having a child is there for only a short period of time. According to her, having a child is a big change in life but you can get through it.
No one comes prepared to have a baby without an iota of doubts and fear. Eventually, all parents learn from their experiences. Once the baby has arrived sacrifice becomes apart of parenting irrespective of the age you plan to become a mother or father. There are certain unavoidable circumstances and you just have to play your part of being a parent, which can mean giving up on your sleep, peace of mind, work, or a good time with friends.
All this won’t be difficult once your little one arrives. Your baby is
|↑1||Dunson, David B., Bernardo Colombo, and Donna D. Baird. “Changes with age in the level and duration of fertility in the menstrual cycle.” Human reproduction 17, no. 5 (2002): 1399-1403.|
|↑2||Working while pregnant is much more common than it used to be. Pew Research Center|