5 Things To Ask Yourself Before Moving An Elderly Parent Into Your Home

What To Know Before Living With Elderly Parents

As our parents grow older and are less able to take care of themselves, most of us naturally want them to move into our homes. Having your parents live with you doesn’t just have to be a moral obligation, it can also be extremely fulfilling. You get to repay your parents for all they did for you when you were growing up and your children have the opportunity to develop a close relationship with them. But it’s not all smooth sailing, caring for older parents does come with its fair share of challenges. To make sure you’re fully prepared to care for them, here are five things you need to first take into account.

1. How Healthy Are They?

What To Know Before Living With Elderly Parents

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If your parents are still relatively healthy and mentally able, this is a great time to move them in. They can get used to your home and family, and your children can get to know them before their health declines. Healthy parents also won’t need round-the-clock assistance and expensive medical treatments. If your parent does have an illness, especially a debilitating one, then research as much as you can about the disease. Be prepared for all the care you’re going to have to give them so nothing takes you by surprise.

2. What Are Your Finances Like?

Can You Afford The Extra Expenses

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If your parents have no source of income, then take into account the stress they will put onto your finances. Make sure you have a complete idea of how financially secure your family is before you make the commitment. This is especially important if your parent has a disease. Take into account the expenses of having a home aide, of frequent hospital visits and medication. Try to seek help from other family members so you’re equipped to give your parents the best care.

3. How Much Are You Prepared To Do?

You'll Need To Put In Extra Time And Work

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If your parents are ill, then this will use up a lot of your time and energy. If you have a full-time job or young children to take care of, then you might need to hire help. If your parents are incapacitated or incontinent, you will also need to bathe them and change their diapers. Not everyone is prepared to do this no matter how much they love their parents, so make arrangements for a home aide in advance.

4. How Accessible Is Your Home?

Your Parents Need To Be Able To Navigate Within Your Home

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Look at your home through the eyes of your parents. Most elderly people aren’t able to climb many stairs, so it might be challenging for them if your home has many staircases. Always try to give them a room on the ground floor or attach a ramp for a wheelchair at the entrance. While on the topic of wheelchairs, depending on how mobile your parents are, you will need to make sure your doorways and bathrooms are wide enough to accommodate one. You might also need to attach rods on your bathroom walls so your parents can use them for support.

5. How Much Will This Change Your Life?

Your Family Might Need Time To Adjust

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There’s no denying it, having an elderly parent move in can significantly change your lifestyle. Holidays will have to be put off, routines will need to be adjusted and your family will have to get used to a new person living with them permanently. To prepare everyone for this, make sure you communicate openly with your partner and children. Let them know that while this will be a big change, it’s for the best. Children learn from the example you set for them. When they see you caring for your elderly parents, they will become more compassionate and more willing to do the same when it’s their turn.

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