Misogyny is the “dislike of, contempt for, or ingrained prejudice against women.” No, it is not the same as sexism. People often confuse the two terms but they are largely different from each other. While sexism may be characterized by gender-stereotyping and discrimination against one sex, misogyny is characterized by an emotional hatred towards women. Why note the difference between the two terms? As Naomi Wolf, author of ‘The Beauty Myth’ puts it, “Sexism is to misogyny what antisemitism is to Jew-hating. Neither is ever acceptable, but we need precise language to understand and fight injustice effectively.”
Often, it’s easy to spot misogynistic individuals as they may make blatantly inappropriate comments on large social platforms. Other times, It’s not as easy. You may not notice them and may even go on to date them while not being aware of their misogynistic tendencies. Here are a list of a few pointers to help you identify a misogynist.
1. Misogynists See Women As Sexual Objects
Women to a misogynist are objects of sexual gratification and nothing more. Misogynists may make inappropriate comments about a woman’s body or the way she looks either out loud or in their head. The latter makes it harder for us to identify them but eventually their misogynistic thinking will reflect in their actions and behavior. Here’s a typical example of a misogynistic quote: “You know, it really doesn’t matter what they write as long as you’ve got a young and beautiful piece of ass. But she’s got to be young and beautiful.”
2. Misogynists See Women As Targets To Victimize
Misogynists knowingly or unknowingly hate women especially if the women are successful and empowered. They see women as targets that have to be victimized and may receive pleasure in causing them misery. Misogynistic comments range from those about confining a woman’s place to the kitchen or ones that are just dripping with insensitivity like: “You could see there was blood coming out of her eyes, blood coming out of her wherever.”
3. Misogynists Behave Differently In The Presence Of Men
You may notice a significant difference in the way misogynists behave when they are around men. They may see men as people worthy of respect, fellow-competitors and equals. Women on the other hand are rarely respected by misogynists. It is even possible to see misogynists favoring men who commit rape while not feeling sympathetic or considerate towards the female victim of rape.
4. Commitments Made With Men Are Taken More Seriously
A commitment made with a man might be taken a lot more seriously than a commitment made with a woman. Misogynists may cancel plans with women far more often than they do with men. In many cases, misogynists rarely have platonic female friends and most often want to make plans with women only for their own sexual gratification.
5. They Don’t Respond Well To A Female Boss Or Authority Figure
Misogynistic men may be egotistical when it comes to women. If they have a female boss or a female co-worker who performs better than they do, they may not respond well. They have mental belief systems that limit women to certain roles and when they see reality prove them wrong, they may not be able to handle it and may even fight it.
6. Dating, Relationships, And Sex Are Always About Him And Never About Her
Misogynistic men in relationships care only about themselves and their needs. Everything else they do including spending time with you or taking you out for dinner are all really a means to achieve a goal rather than the desire to be with you. If you notice this behavior while dating a man, it may not be worth it. Misogynistic men may pressure you into having sex or may seem aloof once it is done. Also, their lack of respect for women makes it extremely easy for them to cheat in relationships.