Handling your pregnancy as a single mom may feel intimidating. At one point while you are trying to move on after splitting from your partner, your baby’s well-being becomes the priority of the time. Because you need to raise a child, inside, you know that you must be prepared for it.
Instead of spending your time thinking about that relationship, which you didn’t deserve, divert your energy towards getting ready to become a single mom. There will be moments when you may feel alone—there won’t be anyone to buy you ice-creams or satiate your late night hunger. However, don’t give too much time to the past and start preparing for the happy days in the near future.
First, gear yourself up for the time ahead, for which you will need to gather people who are reliable and who you think can support you through this journey. Create a network those friends, family, and relatives and count on them.
You need not be dependent on them completely and feel like a burden. You know they do care and they could be of little help—for instance, they could get you cooked food that you could eat later for dinner. However, you also need to take other things in your stride and here they are.
Maintain A Diary
Keep a separate one to let out your emotions if you wish to. The more important one will contain the list of things to buy for the baby, names of people who will be out there when you need to reach out for any kind of help, your doctor’s appointment dates and any plans that you have made for the baby shower or your birth plan.
Prepare For The Baby’s Arrival
It is important that all the preparations are done beforehand, for instance, preparing the nursery, buying baby clothes, purchasing furniture like cribs or bassinets and arranging and assembling the items in the room. By the time you progress into your pregnancy, these tasks may become tedious. Before your baby bump expands and leaves you less capable, finish off with buying, lifting and moving things around.
Have A Company For Doctor Appointments
Ask a friend or a family from your network to accompany you to the doctor for appointments. The waiting area is supposedly crowded with husbands who are waiting anxiously for their wives. You will feel better to have someone by your side when you are in there.
Also, there would be instances when you have to take a decision or need someone for suggestions, advise or maybe to discuss your concern with them. You may face a dilemma on whether to call up a friend or not. However, don’t hesitate and regret later—take somebody along.
Keep Your Health Care Provider Informed
You know that you have to take care of yourself to ensure your baby is in good health. Inform your doctor about your single-mother status. It will help the doctor to prepare you for potential health problems that might potentially bother you in future like postpartum depression.
They might also advise on getting a life insurance policy and a will for the worst case scenarios—so that there is someone to take care of your little one if something unexpected happens to you.
Plan For Birth
The decisions that you take while planning for birth are crucial, discuss it with your gynecologist while having a close one beside you. Make sure you have a backup plan for emergencies—may be an emergency contact when you finally feel the need to go to the hospital. Have a circle of close friends or family members support you during birth and while you are recovering.
This is the time when you would be resting at home with your newborn. While you recover, there should be someone to take of you, so make sure your reliable circle is there with you. You could choose to move in your parent’s home for some time and take a good time healing yourself without having to care about other things in the world.
Under circumstances where you don’t find expected help and support, save some money and hire a helper or a babysitter to get some time for yourself.
Be in touch with your friends and family. Don’t carry guilt on yourself that you had to do it all by yourself. Above all, don’t hesitate to ask for help, they would be happy enough to spend some time with the baby while you get a few extra hours of sleep.