Have you ever been cheated on? If you have, you know how uncomfortable, messy, and heartbreaking it was after you found out the truth. But, if you are the one going behind your partner’s back, you aren’t just hurting them, it can mess up your mind and body as well.
Health Effects Of Infidelity
Infidelity is one of the most damaging things to a couple. Here’s how it can affect you and your partner on a physical and psychological level.
1. Anxiety And Dishonesty
When one person cheats the other in a relationship by having an affair (outside the marriage in case of married couples), it involves anxiety and dishonesty. The person may lie to the partner about going out or being busy. They may make up stories to cover up their activities and conceal their movement, lest they are caught in the act. With dishonesty comes the feelings of anxiety, resulting from the fear of being discovered. When people lie, they are scared that sooner or later the truth may surface.
2. Feelings Of Guilt
When a person cheats, they may have a sense of guilt if they have a strong conscience. Of course, if they had a strong conscience, they wouldn’t cheat in the first place. Nevertheless, after they cheat, they may experience feelings of remorse. While some people hide the truth and continue living normally as if nothing has happened, others may be unable to contain the feelings of guilt and may confide to their partner or spouse. Feelings of guilt occur in people who realize that they have done something wrong.
3. Loss Of Conscience
Conscience is the little inner voice that tells us what’s right and what’s not. Some people who cheat reassure themselves that infidelity is normal and that many people do it. They may suppress any feelings of guilt and tweak their conscience by thinking that it’s alright to have an affair. This false reassurance enables them to get over feelings of guilt and helps them continue cheating.
4. Misunderstanding With Spouse
The behavior of the person who cheats is dependent on whether their secret has been discovered or not. If the affair is shrouded in secrecy, the cheating partner may sometimes be elusive and may be secretive about their activities. They prefer to be alone while speaking over the phone or while on their computers. But, once the cat is out of the bag, all hell can break loose. It may result in misunderstandings and verbal or physical confrontations. If the couple is married, then the legal aspects come into the picture and may lead to a divorce.
5. Lack Of Intimacy With Spouse
Again, this is dependent on whether the affair is out in the open or still under wraps. In both cases, the cheating partner may seem to drift away from the relationship and care less about their partner. They may become emotionally reclusive and spend less quality time together. The once seemingly loving and caring person becomes transformed into an emotionally dry person. Not just emotional, even physical intimacy takes a hit.
6. Absence Of Trust
When infidelity is discovered, it shatters the partner’s feelings. They may never trust the cheating partner ever again. After all, infidelity is a breach of mutual trust. When they realize that their partner is cheating on them, the victims suddenly realize that most of the things that their partner said were a big lie. Even the truth told by the cheating partner may be misconstrued as a lie due to a lack of trust.
7. Depression And PTSD
Some people may be more dedicated and involved in a relationship. When infidelity occurs, they may find it almost impossible to accept that they have been cheated. The level of attachment of a partner or a spouse is directly proportional to the disappointment and sadness they experience. People who have been through many breakups may take it in their stride and move on. But, some people simply cannot come to terms with cheating and may drift into depression. They may even suffer from post traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) and may require psychological counseling.