All expectant moms spend a lot of time planning for a perfect delivery. They seek suggestions from their friends and family and rely on the internet to get all the available information on childbirth. Still, new moms are left with a few regrets, when they look back at their first delivery. There are a couple of things, which they think- could have gone better.
1. Crowded Delivery Room
Out of excitement, you might have invited half of your relatives to the delivery room during your first pregnancy. As the labor progressed, you regret giving out those invitations. You never knew that the unlimited guests would make the childbirth look like a spectator sport. Their remarks and comments may offend you. To make it worse, in future, they may recollect all the drama you did when you were going through the pain.
2. Choosing A Hospital For The Delivery
Have you ever heard a friend explaining their childbirth at home with the help of a doula? They had no worries of reaching the hospital on time. They never spent time thinking about the reception they get at the hospital. Once you hear their narration, you may feel sorry for not giving it a try. Don’t worry, what matters more is that you had a safe delivery.
3. Getting An Epidural
Moms sometimes feel guilty for not choosing the natural way. Even after making plans to do your best to avoid the epidural, you might fail to put up a brave face and plead for it. Console yourself, you did something amazing whatever way you chose it.
4. Saying No to Prenatal Classes
As a first-time expectant mother, you would be faced with anxiety and fear. When the doctor started giving you instructions one after the other, you realize that you could have prepared more wisely. You will be apologetic for not attending those invaluable prenatal classes. The prenatal education could have come in handy for the labor pain management.
5. Having A C-Section
Most of the moms hate it when others frown at them for having a c-section. Sometimes, you may end up doubting the decision. Was there any chance of vaginal birth? Should I have waited a little longer? You are not at fault for any of this, as circumstances beyond your control lead to a cesarean.
6. Being An Entertainer In The Recovery Room
All those times meant for resting after childbirth went by entertaining your guests. You should have slept instead of smiling at your guests and talking to them. None of them would have felt bad about it.
7. Photographer In The Delivery Room
Your only aim was to capture the beautiful moment as perfectly as possible. But, as the pain intensifies, you do not want to see someone who is vying for the best camera angle in the delivery room.
8. No Immediate Breastfeeding
Everyone knows that breastfeeding within the first hour after birth plays a vital role in mother and child bonding. However, a c-section or some other causes might have made this impossible. Another reason for you to worry. You end up thinking that you could have done something to prevent that.
9. Getting An Episiotomy
You hate the episiotomy and still wonder whether it could have been avoided. You might blame the doctor for such an unnecessary intervention.
10. Not Having a Doula
An expectant mother will be confident and brave if an expert is there to help. If anything goes out of track, a doula could explain things to you without scaring you. If you did not have a doula, there are chances of you regretting your decision.
Every childbirth comes with utmost planning, yet you may have regrets. Always remember, you cannot control every aspect of labor and birth.