Christine is a Life Coach with a counseling emphasis known for catalyzing radical self-reflection while offering practical direction. She is passionate about busting the myth that life is about living by a checklist and having it all figured out.
Christine has appeared as an expert on The Today Show, CNN, ABC, CBS, FOX, E!, Style and PBS, as well as various local television and radio shows, speaking about life issues and “Expectation Hangovers®” – a phenomenon she identified and trademarked or generational diversity. She is also a frequent contributor to The Huffington Post and Cosmo.
All of us need help, whether at work or in our personal lives. Go ahead and ask for it, but from the right mentor. Choose a mentor who is elder, more experienced, and has similar values. Explain clearly why you need help and build a rapport. A relationship grows stronger when it benefits both. Don't hesitate to mentor others. Your knowledge and experiences are of value too.
How do you transform an upsetting altercation into a lesson learnt? Reflect to feel, but don't victimize yourself. Pin down the cause of your feelings - dig deep. Shun the ego. Leave room for understanding. Consider whether your reaction is really helping you? Forgive yourself for your reaction and be proud you're trying to do the right thing. Talk with the other person honestly.
First block is unresolved emotions (repressed sadness, shame, anger) that prop up each time you sit in meditation. Vent out these feelings by screaming or lashing out. The second block to meditating is negative self-talk. Your inner voice may be your worst enemy and is loudest when you sit to meditate. Consciously train it to project positivity. It is much easier to escape than to face the inner critic.
Everyone is too engrossed about their thoughts to think about you. Channelize your self-talk to exude confidence, and accept yourself for who you are. One of the best ways to break the ice, interact and get past the anxiety is to ask questions. Also, be prepared to answer questions and have stories to share with others. Give compliments to build an instant rapport.
Set aside your ego and don’t hesitate to accept or ask for help. Be curious to learn what you don’t know, like a beginner. Don’t think you know it all. Instead, open your mind to unlearning and accepting new ways of doing things. Trying to prove what you know is right will get you nowhere! Be mindful of the small steps towards your goal and appreciate your progress.
When things don't go as planned, honour and acknowledge your feelings without getting overwhelmed by them. Cease victimizing yourself. Accept that the situation happened for you and not to you. With optimism, give meaning to your curveball, as much as you believe will help you heal. Let go of negative feelings like anger, resentment. Forgive and move forward.