6 Signs Your Partner Is Unhappy In A Relationship

When we are in a relationship, our partner becomes one of the most (if not THE most) important parts of our life. The honeymoon phase keeps us in a blissful bubble, and the following months slowly cement our relationship into a stable constant that can go on for months, years and if we are lucky, an entire lifetime.

Things become more complicated when our partners are unhappy. Many people think that sadness, grief and anger aren’t always things we must show to our partner. It could be because they doubt their own feelings, or they don’t know how to express themselves, or just because they don’t want to tip a good thing towards dangerous waters. Whatever the reason could be, it is NEVER a good thing when a partner is silently unhappy about something. Below are some signs that you and your partner need to talk about how he/she is feeling:

1. Lack Of Communication

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The first symptom of unhappiness comes with less talking.

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When your partner is moody, for example, they make less of an effort to communicate positively and prefer to keep their distance from you even when you guys are together. This lack of communication is similar to that sort talk and body language gap, but goes on for much longer which is certainly cause for concern. Talking to your partner about their behavior and what they are feeling in a kind and loving manner could help to sort these issues out without making things more difficult for the relationship.

2. Increased Anger And Irritation

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When you notice your partner getting set off for small things, such as reacting with extreme anger because their coffee had less sugar, it is time to address the issues. Your partner could also be quite cranky about the things around them, or the things that you do.

This could also have to do with the person’s general life situation (your partner might have been demoted and she’s taking

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that frustration out on the relationship for example), but it is always best to clear up any misunderstanding before things spiral out of control.

3. Short Replies To Messages

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If you were the type of couple that looked forward to any type of message, call or email from each other throughout the day and there is sudden lack of interest on the other end, you need to approach your partner about it. Keep in mind your partner’s schedule or other commitments before doing this, because it isn’t always intentional in those cases. However, if the content of the replies seems distant and curt, or the pattern continues without external commitments for a long time, it may be time to talk about the important things.

4. Fights Over Trivial Things

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There are some fights that need to be fought, but some are plain silly. For

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example, if your partner fights with you because he doesn’t like the shape of the pancake you made, you know that something is off. Unhappiness breeds anger, and the inability to express anything will bring this emotion out in the most inappropriate ways. Addressing the cause of the anger and your part in it will help to sort out the tangles in the relationship.

5. Distance

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Everyone needs their own space in a relationship, but if your partner is spending too much time away from you, and making excuses to not spend time with you, it could mean a red flag. You could be noticing that your partner is going out of the house alone much too often, or that she wants to read a book in another room instead of your daily ritual of watching Netflix together for many days in a row, or that he is on his phone throughout a dinner date. These signs may not be anything of

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concern if this behavior has been the norm in your relationship, but can be a red flag if this is completely out of character for your partner.

6. Lack Of Intimacy

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Finally, a lack of intimacy and affection can be a dangerous sign that your relationship is on the rocks. Having little to no sex for weeks, a lack of cuddling and kissing, and even a lack of sharing a bed together can be a blaring red sign that things are falling apart. At this point, you might need to talk about how the relationship can be saved, and how both of you can play a part in repairing the damage done by each other. Sometimes, moving away from each other could do you good, but more often, putting in the effort to do the small things for each other can salvage and save a once thriving relationship.