5 Important Things Fathers Should Know About Pregnancy

Fathers may feel they don’t have much a role to play during pregnancy. There are a lot of things they might just skip knowing about or not understand completely. That doesn’t mean they are bad, pregnancy is a mom’s thing, isn’t it?

Well, that may be wrong. Clint Edwards, a father of three, an author, and a blogger shared some if the fatherly duties from his own experience of being a dad. He explains how pregnancy looks from a dad’s point of view and how it can be perceived instead. Here are 5 points dads might relate to at some point during their partner’s pregnancy. Find out what you should do in these 5 situations.

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1. Pregnancy Brings Mood Swings

Men might know that mood swings during pregnancy are common and that happen due to the actions of hormones during pregnancy. However, watching their partners break down and cry over small things may seem silly to them. For example, if he eats up the last slice of pizza, she might surely cry thinking he doesn’t care to leave it for her. Crying at this point may sound silly, but it is not—it really isn’t.

What Dads Can Do: Dads, understand that your partner is going through a waterfall of emotions, the switch of which is not in her hands. Even if it doesn’t seem logical, apologize and hug her. Now is the time to give her all the love and care.

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2. Your Partner’s Body Changes During Pregnancy

The mother’s body is prepared for the pregnancy ordeal—but their partners aren’t as much most of the times. It is not just her belly that is growing because of the baby. Pregnancy swelling also called edema may cause her hands and feet to swell. Varicose veins on the legs and stretch marks on the abdomen are not unusual for the mother but may bother her due to aesthetic reasons.

What Dads Can Do: She is going through too many physical and psychological changes at once. Help her realize that the change is normal and tell her she is strong and beautiful. Increase her confidence—make her realize she is loved and will be loved forever and that she can always be back to her previous self after birth. Give her a foot massage or get her favorite ice-cream flavor. It doesn’t take much to do that.

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3. Sex Won’t Be So Much Fun

Dads might feel this is the end of sex and they will never be able to enjoy it the same way. An intercourse may involve more talking and be figuring out a comfortable and safe position, rather than doing the act. It might not feel as good—mostly a different experience like that of first timers.

What Dads Can Do: For now, have patience and understand that this is temporary. Know which is a safe position for your partner and how can she feel more at ease. Make sure she is comfortable—be open and communicate about it. Here is to find out more about sex during pregnancy.

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4. Childbirth Can Be Terrifying

Childbirth could be a phase of transition for the mother, but for a dad, it could just be frightening. Blood and fluid draining of the body after birth may not be an appealing sight—sometimes even the baby, who may be covered in the amniotic fluid and sticky vernix. However, it is not always the same—it could be life changing experience for dads too, watching their baby cry and kick into the world.

What Dads Can Do: If you can’t see the birth, stick to your partner. Hold her and support her through the process. Encourage her—she may not seem herself because either she is in terrible pain or too excited as well as freaked out.

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Fathers just need to understand that pregnancy is a tough journey and they must respect and love their partners for their ability to give life. Lots of hugs and cuddling isn’t all that she needs. A basic need of listening and understanding comes along.

5. Childbirth And Pooping

Moms approaching their due date have a fear bigger than delivery—pooping during childbirth. It does happen sometimes considering how much pressure it takes to push out a baby. Their weight on the rectum could squeeze out the bowel like paste from a toothpaste tube. It might sound gross, but your partner is terrified about the possibility, thinking there are so many people around her while she lies naked on the delivery bed.

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What Dads Can Do: Laughing and joking about it is the last thing you would want to do. Your partner is experiencing a lot of pressure down there, pushing out a baby through that small space. Since the same muscles are involved in bowel movement as in childbirth, accept the fact that it might happen—let your partner know you do love her despite that. Don’t bring it up when you both are sharing the best moments of your life, holding your little one. Let it be a delivery room secret—if your partner asks about it, try not to make it embarrassing for her.

Almost all fathers are unprepared for the experience of being a father during the first time—some aren’t sure at the second or even the third time. That is alright—nobody comes prepared. Experiences can guide you with time. Be compassionate towards your partner—this is her time and she needs all your attention and care.

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