A happy life is a mystery for many. According to them, ingredients of happiness are beyond their reach and thus, they assume that achieving happiness is a difficult goal. Is there any specific recipe for happiness? Does money lead to happiness? Does finding a perfect partner give you happiness? Well, if you try to weigh happiness in terms of material possessions, it will remain as a mirage. The meaning of happiness is well described in Buddha’s teachings. The path to happiness begins from understanding the root causes of suffering. We need to nourish this happiness every moment with our actions and thoughts. Here are three ways to remain happy in your life.
1. Let Go
“You only lose what you cling to.”
Addictive behavior stops us from living a content life. For most people, life revolves around their profession. We decide the boundaries of our happiness, failing to explore anything beyond that. If anything goes off track in your life, the mental strain you suffer will be enormous. This is primarily because you have pictured an ideal world for yourself where there is no sadness or despair. But, the fact is that once you let go of these desires, peace and happiness will prevail.
In your life, you may have set up certain criteria for success. Anything that is capable of providing you more money and more fame is categorized as success and happiness. Whenever you fail to achieve that, you look at yourself as a failure. Sometimes, you cling on to your past trauma and troubles and forget to live in the present. This futile attachment gives you nothing but pain and suffering. You will be open to alternative ideas and opportunities as you come out of this bubble.
2. Practice Mindfulness
“Do not dwell in the past, do not dream of the future, concentrate the mind on the present moment.”
Mindfulness is a source of joy and happiness. It makes you realize the value of today. You feel lucky for the blessings you have received and it helps you enjoy everything you do in life. If you are caught up with anger, revenge, or depression, your mind wanders through these feelings most of the time. These feeling are always tied to your past experiences or your future endeavors. Because of this, you won’t be capable of paying attention to your present moment.
How do you practice mindfulness in daily life? To begin with, breathe in and out mindfully. When you are aware of it, you will enjoy it. If you are not aware of breathing that happens every moment of your life or if you forget the value of it, you don’t get a chance to be happy about it. While you eat, drive or talk to a friend, do not get engrossed in obsessive thoughts.
3. Forgo The Fear
“The whole secret of existence is to have no fear. Never fear what will become of you, depend on no one. Only the moment you reject all help are you freed.”
We are imprisoned by our fears – fear of the future, fear of failures, fear of criticism. If you are asked to make a list of your fears, it may never end. Have you ever realized that these fears stop you from making life-changing decisions? The perception of life gets distorted when you see it through the lens of fear. As you don’t want to jeopardize the stability you enjoy in your life, you will hesitate to take up challenges. Shedding the fear is, thus, an important step to living a happy life.
Write down all the fears in your life. Spend some time to think whether these fears are worth it. Do they really pose a threat? In your professional life, fear will turn you to an employee who is less willing to take risks. New opportunities will be seen as a threat and you are scared whether it will destabilize your easy life. Understand your fears. Being conscious of your fears helps you understand your roadblocks more clearly. Forgo the fear as it stops you from leading a joyous life.